This post is not for children to read
This post is written by me
These are two things that happened this week to me with two different situations
I do not want you to think every family it like this, I do not want you to think that all lives are terrible here. I want you to think about what you would do in their situations. It is so easy to say we would not put up with it. But if we were hungry and our children were starving would we??
This week a lady came to me and asked if she could talk to me. She has had 14 children. Two have died and she has given up two for adoption. So she has 10 that she is taking care of. Two different fathers involved. The man she is with now is the father of 5 of these children. He is not supportive of her or the children. He comes and goes as he pleases, but maybe once a month he will leave a little money to buy food for them to eat. So she puts up with it. He takes things from the houses and sells them, he has other women, and she knows it. He has a source of income from some place (besides stealing from her) but she is not really sure what work he does. So this week he came to the house and took some more things out to sell. She got mad and starting yelling at him. He got mad and took a machete and said he was going to kill her if she did not shut up. So I am listening to her and thinking what a terrible story, but I have heard this same story over and over again from other women. She told me that she is not letting the guy back in the house, she is done with him. Then she said this is what I need help with today. I am thinking she is going to ask me for food, money, clothes something along those lines. She said she wanted a birth control shot. So I said okay, but I thought you were kicking him to the curb. Yes, she was going to get rid of him. She wanted the shot so she would not get pregnant again. She then told me that she can sleep with someone for the price of $2.50. This will buy her a plate of food for a few of the kids. She will do this for awhile until she can find some other way to make money for her and the kids. A lady sitting on the bench beside us heard us talking and said that she should be able to get $12.50 and not $2.50. They talked like this was a normal conversation.
The feet above belong to a little boy that was 15 months old named Lucker. His feet are that swollen because he has kwashiorkor. A nurse, from the clinic, called me on Thursday morning to say there was a child that I needed to admit into the RC. I went and found some of the team members. They had asked that I call them when I admitted any new kids this week. As we were coming around the corner to see the child, Lori had just arrived at the same time. The child made eye contact with Lori and took his last breath. His grandmother was holding him she did not know that he has just died in her arms. We took him into the clinic to confirm what we already knew, that yes, he was dead. Of course I wanted to know the story of why this had to happen. I should not have asked. The mother is pregnant now, which means as soon as she was pregnant she stopped breastfeeding Luckner. She could not provide enough good food packed full of protein and vitamins for him, so he in turn became malnourished. She is pregnant with a different man than her other children. He does not want to take care of the two kids she had with another man. So what does he do? Well she had been to the clinic on Wednesday, with her first son. The new boyfriend had given him boiling water to drink. The water had burned the boys mouth and throat. While the mom was here at the clinic there were worse things going on at home for the one above. The new boyfriend was giving the child bleach to drink. Then he tied a cord around his neck and was draging him around the house by the cord around his neck. The mother got home and found out what had happened. She went to the police and gave a report. The boyfriend, took off and he cannot be found now. The grandmother of course, was very upset.
These ladies cannot call the local shelter, they cannot even depend on the police to help, they cannot move away to a new town, there are not jobs here to be found, many just put up with the abuse because “he” can provide some money so they can eat. Giving them food or money might help them today but it will not help them forever.
For the first lady I gave her food and money and the shot. I told her that we needed to come up with a better plan for her and the kids. When she had child number 14 she almost died, the doctors told her not to have anymore children. We paid for her to be taken into another hospital to deliver a beautiful baby girl.
For the second, I have not seen the mother yet. But I think I would give her a hug. We called the judge here in Cazale. He took down a statement from the grandmother. They live in a different section so the judge cannot do much to help. He also gave us a paper to transport the body and grandmother back to the house. We had a casket made and dad took them back home. I told them to come back and see me on Tuesday.